Heart Warming Experience

It’s been one year since I started blogging….. There has been many occasions where I thought I should post a pic which caught my eye and inscribe about it … I wanted it to be so perfect that I waited for almost a year for it…. I actually consider myself as a person who has good photogenic sense and all (Comedy la)…. So just imagine how I have controlled this aspiration in my mind for such a long time…..

India 20-20 World cup victory snap, Boris Becker Wimbledon snaps, Lewis Hamilton F1 snaps, Friends series snaps with Matthew Perry and Matt Lee Blanc, Sensex upward moving graph, close friends leaving HP, my gang of school friends, Goa trip snaps, Rajini Sivaji stills, Aishwarya rai, Hrithik Roshan in Dhoom II, 1000 odd snaps taken using my Camera mobile.. etc etc. These are few of the things which come to my mind now; these pics initiated the thought of me having a go at it…..

Finally the moment has come and I am really happy and overwhelmed to do it………………

Never in my dreams had I thought that I will post my own pic….. not even if you somehow manage to mesmerize me or something ... but it has happened….. This was given to me as a gift from a dear friend….. Asha on Oct 15th 2007 at 8.40 P.M. Needless to say about the time and the effort she has put in to create this… you can see for urself…. This lass has many talents and everytime she surprises me with her creativity.

She succeeded in surprising me this time too… that too big time… you will never believe I even forgot to react when she gave me the gift…. People around me even teased her ….well for the first time in my life I think I owe one person an explanation for my behavior….

To say the truth I was spell bound….. I was really touched and weighed down by the gesture that I was not able to react… was wondering whether I deserve this from you or from anyone else for that matter….. was wondering why so much crowd attention for me….. was wondering where you got the time to do it…. Was wondering from when did you have so much patience in completing a task…. Was wondering how am I going to preserve this….. so many questions that I forgot to react…

Asha, may be I am really a dumb ass as people quote for not reacting… but... you have made Oct 15th 2007 as one of the most unforgettable days in my life and you gave me a gift to cherish for my life time…. I don’t have my photos framed … My mom scolds me for that… Infact I rarely get myself pictured…. I can assure you that this art is going to be my remembrance about my Youth for time to come and you are the reason for it….

“Thank you” might not be the fitting word to use her….. You sure made feel on top of the world on that day and not many people have done that……

Gosh – I do feel good when I smile

Recent past has not been great for me. Lots of worries and problems, well that’s life right…. There are some positives and negatives…. But with all this going on…. I forgot that there is something called a smile or rather enjoying life……

I watched one English movie today and it was kind of an emotional movie….. One scene was so touching that I stood up started to smile seeing what’s happening on the screen…. I paced around my room, back and forth till the scene was complete….. It was a happy scene…. And I laughed seeing the end…. My heart felt light….. I had cold and cough today… but for a moment my body forgot that I was ill….. I kept smiling for some 15 minutes after the movie got over and guess wat; my mom came out of the kitchen and said hey u look good today…… All the problems which I had in my mind vanished for a few minutes….. At that moment I realized “Hey man you have not been smiling for a while”….. Then I sat to analyze why am I not smiling?

There are a number of reasons for me not to smile, which is not worthwhile to discuss here. But whatever may be the problem…. One should take some time out to enjoy life…..Does this happen only to me…. No right… everyone has problems….. But does everyone forget to smile like me…. I don’t think so…. May be few like me…. But definitely not everyone…..

There may be times when something is bothering you and suddenly you become serious….wats is that u achieve being serious, showing a stiff face to the ones who are near and dear….. Even though it doesn’t happen knowingly…one should have the ability to realize that life is too short to be filled with only worries. When you have the time on your side, enjoy… what’s the probability that the same situation will be presented before you in the future……..

Some moments are rare to occur….. and being clumsy at that point will not only make u unhappy but it was also lead you to long for love and affection in the future. Do you need a reason for you to smile, yes everyone does, but when an opportunity is presented to you… don’t ignore it and mourn for it later.

From now on… when I am a bit serious and not in a so called good mood, I am going to make sure that I am gonna live the moment and make others enjoy my company. Worries will be kept aside and will be remembered only when necessary. I wanna savor all good memories in my heart and live life peacefully.

Hope I achieve this dream; yes it is really a dream for me and ofcourse a big step too… I got a SMS this week from one of my friends….. Happiness is like a FM radio station… when you tune the right link… the songs you like will start ringing in your ears…… I shall start to tune in the right link, hope it enriches my life.

Farewell My Friend

The last one of the breed is also going today out of Hp following others. This one is pretty special, as only to this person I had made my first attempt of developing a friendship at Hp. The funny thing is she attracted my attention using popcorn, slowly friendship grew and I have to admit it has grown through some tuff strides and hurdles.

She is as bubbly as you can imagine… ready to do adventures things when asked for, willing to be dare devil, always has a passion for life and has a different way of enjoying it. But you have to be careful with her (esp the close ones) – don’t be on a funny mood and let out words which will affect her dignity. I once did that, and I am still suffering, she wont even touch me for fun, as I once said “Don’t keep ur hands on a teenage guy” during the early days. I have always felt jealous when she is playing around with other guys, even though I understand her better than most. she won’t even come near me and always maintain that distance.

I have always liked her company… best or worst….. She has given me the right direction in most of the difficult situations and more importantly was with me. I have been with her for the past 4 years and enjoyed her company thoroughly, I would get most offended when she scolds me, dunno why…but that’s always been the case…. May be she is too harsh or something…..

First girl with whom I have had a long ride on a bike (Ambattur to R.A Puram), that too when I had little experience in driving a two wheeler, First girl who gave me a diary milk on valentines day and on the same day for the first time ever brought me down on my knees with a red rose addressing her. First person to call me up before my exams and give me shocking news without giving any respect to my study preparation bcoz she wanted to be the first person to inform me.

You have clinched on to me on two occasions – one at the beach scared of a monkey and the other one was on a boat ride at wayanard, can’t ever forget in my life. These are only a few memories among thousands of fruitful moments, which if I start to explain will never end. She has accompanied me for 3 tours till now outside Chennai and all have been fun.

She always has thought me as a flirt till now, wish somehow she could change her mind only on that point, as I have come off my heights in that area of expertise. Will miss you dearly, cant say why; because of the distance you keep from me or for your scolding, but occasionally you too have shown some affection on me , that’s a rarity but that the way our relationship has been all these years.

Farewell my friend, though you are out of HP, you can always count on me for any sort of help, farewell again. I know you won’t like me being emotional or anything of that sort when you are leaving, so with a smiling face I am saying – “Have a great life outside HP”.

On Womens Day

In the past i.e. 1900’s-1980’s women were portrayed as one who does all the household works and takes good care of the husband and her children’s.

The main reason for portraying women like this was because men were considered superior to women because they earn more and majority of men compared to women were educated. Considering the situation at that time and since I was not there to witness it probably you can say that women were treated in a manner which they dint deserve.

Since earning women at that time were very low in number the tax slab for women was also higher compared to men, this move by government must be really appreciated as it encouraged young girls to follow the trend set by earning women and claim the benefits given by the government.

Now the recent Taxation policy released by our finance minister also gives more leverage to women than men, women have been given a luxurious tax slab of 1.35 lakh, while men are given a mediocre 1.10 lakh. The finance minister has followed the trend of giving benefits to the female community and we can’t completely blame him as he is the one person who is well educated and knows what he is doing, many tax reforms introduced by him are good examples to vouch this statement.

But as common people, do we agree to this different tax slabs to men and women, lets take few examples and discuss this issue.

Various women organization have been chanting for a while now for equal rights for women i.e. 50-50, if everything is to be equally divided why should the tax slab be different.

I work in a MNC and when I turn my head around in my office women are a good percentage higher than men, you have to actually long to a see a male companion to have coffee with or to have a dirt talk. The number of fresher’s out of college who are women are higher than men and more campus interviews are conducted at women’s college by major MNC companies.

Ok, lets say may be the truth is that women are more intelligent at college level and thru their smartness they get jobs easily ( I am prepared to analyze this at each and every level) , wat happens after they get married, while they are in the job, maternity leave of 3 months with paid salary. Wat they go thru for giving birth to a child is a feeling you cant express and three months is too short in my opinion so lets not dig into this issue any further.

After the child is born, when the couples go out with the child you can easily see that the child is the responsibility of the father… the father will be running behind the child to feed the child while the mother will be watching the scene with laughter. Even yesterday I saw a similar situation happen in a restaurant.

Women population as a whole is also in increasing trend, tax reforms are formed with the purpose to collect money for major government activities, if women who have easily outplayed men in the current environment are more in number and they get all the benefits how come the tax paid to the government will increase and who will be on the losing side.

March 8th is regarded as women’s day, is there any day for men…… I don’t think so….. Women give birth and they are bound to be workshiped, but here also the benefit to the women is comparatively more than men.

I am sure many of us have heard of the term “house wife” or “home maker”, I have always wondered the origin of this term and curious to know its inventor .Apparently, house wife or home maker is a term used to refer to married women who is not officially employed to get a handsome salary but in all fair terms does fair bit of work.

I am sure going at this rate in the near future there will be lot of demand for a particular job… people will be standing in big queues for this job - “house husbands”.

I am not saying that the tax slab for women must be reduced… men and women are almost treated the same in India right now and this should make the government think that both have the equal right to pay tax at a equivalent rate with a similar tax slab.

I am not against the benefits women have got all these years, I am just worried about the fact that if everything is to be treated the same (sometimes its slightly sliding towards the women’s side) the tax slab must also be the same.

Relationship – The End Result – Guy’s Point of view

After two blogs about relationships……. Ppl have started to ask me wat are you trying to say here… (I was hoping something nice about my blog, but this is wat I get………) so here goes my attempt to explain wats the end result of broken relationship….

Since I am a guy I would be able to explain better form a guy’s point of view (although many girls will definitely see this as partiality)…….. When girls say no to you for any reason…… think from your heart whether you really like the person and want to spend the rest of your life with that person…… small “TIT for TAT” will happen in any relationship… ignore the small fights…… does the girl really care that you should not get hurt… if so wait for that person to come back to you and believe me they will eventually…… however this happens in most rare cases….. After you had it once from a girl… u cannot expect any mercy from her for sure…..

From my experience ( of seeing others… lemme be specific atleast this time ..) once a girl says no to you and you feel hurt …… stop persisting…..believe me she would have thought it over and said done for the good… she would like you to be her friend…. She will call you on friendship day and wish you….. but nothing else…. If you still persist before you know it ….. the next call will be on next years rakki day….. so better be careful… don’t persist….. once a relationship is over… its over for the good… no matter how many times you try to bundle up the old feelings and throw it out… it will always be there in your memory…. It will never be the same……

The general theory ( I know that all the girls I know are going to hate me for the rest of my life for saying this … but this is wat I feel) is – “sometimes a girl has to kiss a lot of frogs before she can find her prince and few guys will just be one of those frogs who if allowed will turn to a clingy toad (feeling for it)…….. so guys take life as it comes…. Enjoy the dating scene before you become old…… if you live in your past then you will be stuck with your own sorry company and nothing else…..

This ofcourse is not the ground rule for end of a relationship… individuals differ…. So there is every chance that there can be exceptions and I am one too.

My Birthday - Just another Day

All my friends and relatives called up…… People I dint even expect called up or msged…….. This time wishes were more than any other year……

I received gifts from most of my close friends….. all were perfect….. I had cut 3 cakes this year……. Last one was from cakes and bakes and was really gud……

In the morning made my father and mother happy…spend time with them…... Went to temple and escorted them to a nice hotel…. Afternoon not much , expect the usual stuff of tracking the share market…… relatives came home and after that headed for office…….

Gifts I received were from Priya – one nice t-shirt… whatever dress wear she has given me till now.... ppl have said that I look smart in those…. In all probability this shud also be one of my favourties..….. Asha gave one bouquet (beautiful flowers) with diary milk, Kalpana gave one bouquet with Mobile panel (she thought I needed one very badly… actually everyone did) …… Niyaz and Rahman (ppl who taught me share market ) gave one Miami blues eyewear – Polaroid which is wat i wanted for a long time , Gino Mom and Linz gave me a cute small Teddy bear (which i have hidden in my closet bcoz anyone who sees it will definitely flick it) , Prashanth (Officer) gave me one smiley ball and cake…….my team celebrated with cake on my face…Relatives also gave plenty of gifts..…But yet…..

This bday is slightly different from my previous ones….. there was nothing amusing to look fwd to .…… was not at all excited even for one minute that its my bday…. Previously it was not like that ….always there will be a element of surprise which I will look fwd to…..……dunno why… I dint expect anyone to call at 12…… I almost snoozed for some 30 mins…dint see many of my close friends during the day …..I forgot to even have dinner…….. Just wondering that may be people in their mid twenties ( I have to accept that I am stepping into 25 range now) are matured enough and take their bday as just another day….

Anyways I am still grateful and thankful to people who remembered that I was born on Nov 13th…..Thank you all for your wishes.

Break up - A learning experience in life

Life is full of surprises and you learn new stuff at every level…. Sometimes you have to learn it the hard way, i.e. shedding tears and showing emotions along the way…. Let’s take the basic concept of breakups and analyze how much opportunity is there for anyone to learn and feel in life….This is my way of looking at things… atleast at the end of it… you wud have gained some knowledge, if nothing else…..

Breakups does happen between couples…. I have personally seen more breakups rather than successes in love. Why does this happen…… When does a relationship actually termed as broken .. its when one partner is willing to continue the relationship while the other partner doesn’t want to continue…… when both accept to depart, its not a break up….its more of a MOU (Memorandum of understanding) between the two….. So what happens to the person who wants to continue the relationship after the break up… should he/she be sad…. Well they are entitled to… unless you are in there position you wont know it….right….

First few months - The person who is not willing to accept the break up will always thrive for love and affection and try to live in past memories, thinking about the sweet moments they had when they were partners and just refuse to give the thought of existence of breakup. It will be very hard for you to believe what just happened. You will constantly look for a call or mail from your partner…But there wont be any…. When you try to call, ur partner wont pick up… this will get you even most frustrated and will make you strive for more affection.

This is the stage where one feels the guiltiness….. you will feel…. All the If’s and But’s in life and this thought will start hovering around ur mind…. Avoid being alone during this period….the mental stress and pain in this period will be more and thought of life sucks, well everything sucks and why life… will come to ur mind… Don’t worry you will pass through this….

Level two is the most difficult period of break ups…. Believe me you will do stupid things of which when you think about it latter. You will definitely have a laugh…. Desperate tactics will be adopted by you to try and win back their love and affection…. You will show anger over your friends and except them not to react to it… (Wat will the poor people do….) The fear inside you will come out and make you do crazy things for which you will get nice scolding’s from your partner… You will feel like doing certain things for him/her on special occasions , but anything you do for them at this point will only trigger their frustration on you , this is the most difficult part , a friend will have more right on your partner than you and you are not allowed to express wat you feel , a volcano is built inside your heart waiting to explode …. This will increase your BP and you will have sleepless nights…looking at the roof…. Thinking wat have you done… wasted so much time on some one who doesn’t even give respect to your feeling….. You will pass through this too… but with some amount of time consumed….

Level three is the stage when you start thinking.. Is the relationship really over?…..for some time you wudn’t have spoken to ur partner and would not have realized it too…. You will laugh more… you will be with your friends more and start enjoying, even if the enjoyment lasts for only a while…. Your first enjoyment after the break up occurs here…. You would have thought abt the relationship over and over again… its ups and downs… and by now… you wud have realized where are you and wats the best thing to be done right now… Prioritize your life goal and ambitions and start working towards it….. being sad and thinking about the past is not going to get us anywhere (pls note that I am including myself here) ….. when your mind thinks abt your partner.. just concentrate on other things…. Your friends have to play a big part here understanding your situation…. And I am sure any true friend will help you out.…..

If after all the above three stages are thru and still your mind doesn’t leave thought of your partner… Hats off dude/girl…. You are madly in love with him/her and continue to do so for the rest of your life…. … but your partner is not quite blessed to be with you…… to live a wonderful life with you….. to experience what is to be like to be the most loved person in the whole world….. to laugh all the time with you…. To enjoy life with you…..

Ok, enough of looking at from the angle of person who got “ditched” ( I shud not have used this word…) … lets analyze wats in the mind of the person who actually said that lets end the relationship… there cud be reasons for break ups…. Reasons as silly as you are not smart/cute anymore or as dramatic as my family won’t accept us…. The reasons might be valid or not Valid… but the important thing is that the thought has come to their mind that this is not going to work out….. Sometimes there won’t be any reason or fights also….but just the circumstances are held up in such a way that it’s best to depart……

Love is a Commitment, its not an entertainment; so be true to your love… Don’t lose your love for other commitments…..Please try and keep the relationship alive if you don’t have any difference of opinion with your partner and want to spend the rest of your life with your partner…. be true to urself and do what is best for both, don’t hurt each other in the process…. Its so easy to say I don’t have any feelings for you anymore…..but latter in your life when you are in need of love…. All the wonderful moments you had in the relationship will be doing circles over your head .. and this shud not make you regret the decision you have taken to dissolve the relationship.